Consider the education in our life. What educational awareness did we receive about emotions and the emotion of denial? Could the majority of answers be that we have received no training about our emotions or emotional training about denial? Surprising, huh? Not really. Here's why:
- Emotional awareness is not taught in math curriculum.
- Emotional awareness is not taught in educational courses.
- Emotional awareness of denial is not taught in employee training classes.
- Managers are not skillfully trained in emotions nor taught how to prevent and problem solve the issues that emotional denial creates in a business.
- Emotional education is not taught to individuals of how to maturely and responsibly manage emotions to balance life and control their money.
- To be aware and to control the emotion of denial requires learning and applying new skills.
Denial is one of the worst emotions to produce the most harm in our society and to our human race. Why?
- Denial produces human abuses.
- Denial produces Domestic Violence.
- Denial produces Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
- Denial produces child abuse.
- Denial produces victims through harmful addictions.
- Denial divorces marriages and tears families apart.
- The lies of denial are appear easier to survive through and to falsely cope with.
Denial is not reality nor honesty. Denial produces blame or excuses. Denial does not create positive and mature results. Denial creates problems. Denial does not solve problems. Denial will not allow a person to control money.
What is the emotion of denial about?
The theory of denial was first researched by Anna Freud. She classified denial as a mechanism of the immature mind, because it conflicts with the ability to learn from and cope with reality.
In denial, an individual does not see the existence of truth or fact. The choice to refuse reality is to deny truth and fact. Denial is the refusal to admit or accept a truth.
Psychology Today teaches us that avoiding a negative emotion buys short term gain at the price of long term pain. Emotional avoidance often involves denying the truth--not a good foundation for a healthy life. When accepting the emotion, we are giving self a chance to learn about it, become familiar with it, become skilled in its management, and integrate it into your life. Avoidance doesn't teach that, because we can't learn to do something by not doing it. - Noam Shpancer Ph.D. - Insight Therapy
Can we learn about denial? Yes, we can.
Can we learn what the emotion of denial does in our lives? Yes, we can.
Can we learn how to control denial? Yes, we can.
Do we make excuses or misplace blame elsewhere because we are in fear or are too lazy to learn about what we can maturely control and accept wisely what we cannot control? Yes, we do!
Americans are not stupid people. Each has their unique experiences of mistakes and lessons learned. However, most Americans are not emotionally equipped to acknowledge and understand their emotions. Without understanding how our emotions help us make decisions than we are going along to get along and never controlling anything in our life nor our money.
The ability to manage and control will require skillful learning. These new skills help us to make rational and logical decisions. Through learning, we gain the ability to maturely solve problems and responsibly prevent problems.
We control our money by understanding math. We also need to know how to control our emotions when doing our math too. Denial can be a persuasive salesperson that can manipulate us and affect the choices we make with our money and in our budgets.
American culture teaches us that our emotions are our primary defenses and offenses to give in life. However, when we fail to seek knowledge about the emotional,rational, and logical functions of our brains; we are deprived of coping maturely and making honest decisions about money.
We will never have positive results if we allow denial to be an equation in financial management. We will never have a home and work life balance by surviving with denial. Denial requires new skills to stop and break the old damages produced by this emotion.
Calculators have no denial buttons. Why? Because emotions are not supposed to be considered when figuring the calculations of math. Math produces truthful answers. We cannot see the physical attributes of denial - as if it were a visual form. But we can witness the damaging and negative results of what denial can do.
Budgets that are created with denial will exceed their limits when reality becomes fact. Reality and truth always reveal the damages of denial. Harmful denial will become proven as a fact when the damaging consequences become evident. Do not be deceived. Debts pile up and credit scores go down. Businesses must go into bankruptcy. Services will be cut off and items repossessed when not managing maturely the necessities versus the wants. A $600 monthly home budget is as important to manage as a Billion Dollar business. Why?
Because denial creates pain to anyone who fails to ignore that denial exists and fails to control denial. Pain of losing homes. Pain of losing jobs. Pain of companies going out of business. Pain of losing what one used to have to what one has to accept now of their reality. Denial produces painful consequences.
Money builds and creates our needs and wants. Money destroys and takes away our needs and wants when we do not learn how to control it. Our emotions do affect how we feel about money. Our emotions do affect how we spend or save our money. Our emotions will impact our home and professional budgets. Stop allowing emotions and the emotion of denial to be the calculator when budgeting money.
It is up to each American to learn how denial affects their life. To know how denial jeopardizes budgets and how to maturely cope with undesirable money consequences.
It has been said, "Many will strain at a gnat and swallow a camel." Many will fake on the job as being a financial expert while personally at home, they are struggling financially to keep their personal life afloat. Many will complain at the financial resources another appears to have; while they neglect the responsibility and mature budgeting of their home first. Do we continue to socially strain at gnats while struggling to swallow the camels we choose or do we seek learning to become aware of our emotions and stop the effects of denial in our lives? The choice to do or to be is for each to decide and do something about it.
A problem is only as good to be solved as the person who is tired of suffering from it. Are you tired of suffering and struggling financially already? Consider if denial or your emotions are a part of the problem. -
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